Not seeing eye to eye
Part of the reason that I blog is to explain my position. To explain my thoughts and feelings. To be understood. To be recognized. To reach some sort of agreement (whether that involves me changing my opinion or someone else changing theirs).
I don’t know why I keep doing it though. I don’t know why I keep having conversations with people I disagree with. Actually, I know why: it’s because I think that if I just restate my points with more words, or maybe with different words, then the other guy will understand what I’m saying. Or maybe if they restate their points with more words, or maybe with different words, and answer the questions that I ask, then I will understand what they are saying.
The real question I have is: why do I still think this is a thing? Why do I still think that this process is fruitful, when I have so many data points that show that we rarely see eye to eye, and in fact, the conversation can really just make us dislike each other.
I think it’s because I don’t want to give up on people, don’t want to give up on myself. I don’t want to come to grips with the reality that things aren’t so ideal after all.